WHAT IS LUDUS, PRAGMA AND MANIA LOVE?

   LUDUS, PRAGMA AND MANIA LOVE?

Ludus: is a game-playing or uncommitted love. Lying is part of the game. A person who pursues ludicrous love may have many conquests but remains uncommitted. Ludus: "I have sometimes to keep my partner from finding out about other lovers." "I can get over love affairs pretty easily and quickly." "I enjoy playing the game of love with my partner and a number of other partners."

Pragma is a pragmatic, practical, mutually beneficial relationship. It may be somewhat unromantic and is sometimes described as "shopping list" love because a partner is selected on the basis of a series of traits or requirements. Sex is likely to be seen as a technical matter, needed for producing children, if they are desired.

Pragma: "A main consider­ation in choosing my partner was how he or she would reflect on my family." "An important factor in choosing my partner was whether he or she would be a good parent." "One consideration in choosing my partner was how he or she would reflect on my career."

Mania is an obsessive or possessive love, jealous and extreme. A person in love this way is likely to do something crazy or silly, such as stalking. The movie Fatal Attraction was about this type.

Mania: "When my partner does not pay attention to me, I feel sick all over." "Since I ahve been in love with my partner, I have had trouble concentrating on anything else." "I cannot relax if I suspect that my partner is with someone else."